Self Awareness

One of our inner archetypal masculine voices – The King – deals with our personal authority. This inner force, which also shows up in dream images, appears as The Leader, Boss, Father, Chief or Supervisor. We want our inner King to be organized, confident, level-headed, perceptive and benevolent. We want our ‘ruling’ energy to be […]

‘Shoulds’ are a list of ironclad rules about how we and other people ‘ought to’ act. These rules are indisputable; and, any deviation from these is deemed bad (by ego). We feel we ‘have to,’ ‘must,’ ‘need’ or ‘ought to’ do certain things out of duty, obligation or compulsion, never bothering to question our actions […]

As previously discussed, people tend to work from either an external or internal locus of control. People who externalize a locus of control have little or no sense of their own power.  People with an inner locus of control have a sense of ownership in what happens and are willing to take action (exert their […]

It takes a great amount of psychological and physiological energy to withhold emotions.  It also takes much energy to be wrestling with decisions and in feeling stuck or burdened. When we hold on to feelings and indecisions, this stresses our bodies; we become irritable, sullen, achy and fatigued. Disclosing (often for the first time) and […]

Wanting to control situations occurs when we are attached to a specific outcome – an outcome ego believes is best for us – because we fear what might happen if we don’t. When we try to control outcomes, we are at the same time resisting, fighting and blocking other possibilities. When we are trying to […]

Perhaps the deepest need people have is for a sense of control. From an evolutionary standpoint, if we are in control of our environment, then we have a far better chance of survival. We strive to control our basic Maslowian physiological needs for food, health and shelter. Being ill or the threat of homelessness often evokes a […]